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“He’s Not That Into You” is a stupid catchphrase

The ridiculousness that is HJNIY is everywhere.

When the phrase first became a sensation, and the book came out, I was naïve and vulnerable enough to think that maybe I should jump on the HJNIY bandwagon. I berated myself for thinking that it just seems so mean; the answer to every relationship problem is to remind yourself that you have been summarily rejected? I couldn’t get into it.

But what seemed like vulnerability then was just my instincts at work. The phrase is stupid, and it just perpetuates everything wrong with our current “romantic comedy” culture. Why are we supposed to be empowered by a phrase that reminds us that we are a victim, that places the blame on some stupid guy for our pain?

I think the phrase should be replaced by something like, “You need to move on.” As in, “if he’s not calling you, you need to move on.”  I think this would be a great way to remind us that we are the agents of change in our lives, instead of helping us dwell on something so painful. Why do we keep spending money on examples of horrible, dysfunctional relationships?

In better news, there is a movie I really want to see: Coraline. It looks like it will be fun!

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